The wedding is all about the bride. It is her job to stress over that big event that will take place in the near future. The bridal shower, on the other hand, does not demand the constant attention of the bride. It is her time to relax and not worry about that massive “to do” list that she has. All she has to do is show up.

Now, this is where it’s the bridesmaids’ time to shine. As mentioned before, the Maid of Honor has the primary role of heading up the bridal shower, but this does not mean the fellow bridesmaids cannot help in their supporting roles.

Start by choosing a date and time most convenient for the bride and her family, as well as for the bridesmaids. Ask the bride for a guest list and talk a bit about her expectations. She may have some ideas about the size of gathering she’d be most comfortable with. If possible, avoid inviting people that are not invited to the wedding.

The next step would be brainstorming, collaborating, and purchasing! Get with the other bridesmaids and decide what needs to be done and who can own that task. Dry of ideas?! Purchase a book to help w/ the process. Here’s some good ones I found: Bridesmaid Handbook by Sharon Naylor and The Bridesmaid Guide: Etiquette, Parties and Being Fabulous by Kate Chynoweth and Neryl Walker.

Planning a shower is similar to planning the wedding itself: a budget needs to be set and followed, location needs to be secured, decor to be decided upon, invitations sent, food prepared, etc. Don’t stress! Work together with the bridal party and family and you’ll be able to plan the shower of your friend’s dreams!